Ms. B is back and I'm handing out some loving.

I love sex, but I can honestly say sometimes I enjoy indulging in an ancient middle school activity. What is it you ask?

Kissing, Making Out, Heavy Petting. Whatever you want to call it. I occasionally turn my boyfriend on uncontrollably by climbing onto his lap with only the intention of making out with him.

Now it may eventually turn into a sexual encounter, but sometimes that is all I want. Do you remember?

Throwing caution to the wind and kissing as if there is no tomorrow, until our mouths are sore and swollen. It doesn't matter, you are too turned on to care at that point. The good old days when a girl could make a boy breathless with her mouth alone.(I am talking above the belt here...)

Remember the build up of the make out session? The initial kisses that turn heated in seconds. The build up of intensity, with hands roaming and bites on necks. All that heat and passion bursting out of you? Just milking all that yearning and desire you have for one another for all it is worth?

You know you want each other so very badly, yet you stay right there on the edge, driving each other completely insane. Purposefully not having sex.

There is nothing else quite like that kind of antisipation. Such a rush... I love it. I love it. I need t now.

Braces, Oral Sex, and Pain down there

After several excruitiating days of NO writings, or internet I got it back last night and am posting our weekly Q&A time. Hope you enjoy it guys!

So here goes. I recently had my braces put back in and I’m scared to give my fiancé a blow job. I’m pretty sure I can do it without cutting him, but it’s some kind of new shit they have come out with “self locking braces” and it has some bands that are pretty sharp on the upper inside of my mouth. Well okay what I’m asking is. Has you ever wore braces and gave a blowjob? How did it work out? Know any guys that have gotten a blow job from a girl with braces? Did it hurt?

Sorry hun, but I have never had braces but I did dig up a little bit of information about it. You'll need to be very careful and build a new bit of technique. If you can I would suggest taking out the rubber bands in your mouth. I can't streess the BE CAREFUL clause. Wish I could help more.

I'm married to a US Marine that is currently deployed. My question is:I've heard that having sex for the first time, after 6 months without, can hurt almost as bad as when you lost your viriginity. Is this true? If so do you have any suggestions for how to reduce this pain? Thanks

I have actually never heard of anything like that before. So I went searching for information over the good old interweb. This is the deal, that isn't quite true. If you don't have sex for 4-7 years your vagina will shrink back to the time before you lost your virginity and yes, it will be painful. 6 monthes isn't nearly enough time for that to happen, but it will shrink a little bit. You can combat this by masturbating while your husband is gone, or when he comes back you two can make use of a little foreplay some lube.

Hope I was helpful!

Hey Guys

The internet is down in my building where I live and I am unsure when It will be back on.

I am doing this from a friends computer. I'll have a new mailbag when the interent is turned back on.

Hope I havent kept you waiting too long.

Condumb? Lets get smart people.

Lets be honest people. 75% of my daily conversations are about sex, relationships and the like and a large amount of people don't use ANY sort protection when their having sex! We've all heard the talks abotu why you should use em, and here's a little section on ALL of the different kinds and how to put em on. Come on now people!

Let get down to business. I'm going to do my little public service announcement before we begin. If you're going to have sex, there really is only one way to protect yourself from contracting an STI, and that's by practicing safe sex. And it can't just be safe sex some of the time, or even most of the time...it HAS to be every time. The best and easiest way to protect yourself from STIs is to use either a male or female condom.

The Male Condom
How they work: The condom fits over an erect penis and collects semen after a guy ejaculates. This way, sperm never enter a girl's vagina.

The Good: Latex condoms will keep you protected against most STIs. They're cheap, easy to buy (check out your nearest drugstore), and small enough to carry around. They're pretty easy to use, too, but don't forget, the penis must be erect before you can put it on.

The not so Good: Unfortunately, condoms aren't 100% foolproof. Nothing is. Condoms are really good protection, but the sad truth is that it's impossible to have sex that is 100% safe. Condoms (or any other method) won't completely protect you from STIs like Herpes or HPV. Or, the condom could break when you open the package, especially if you have long nails. They can also break during sex if they're not put on correctly or you forget to remove the air from its tip, so make sure to read the instructions in the box. Or they can leak if they're not taken off correctly, so make sure the penis is still erect when you take it off.

The Great: Male condoms are really easy to get. You can buy a box at the drugstore or you can grab them for free at your nearest family planning clinic. They come in all types of sizes and varieties, even flavors, so experiment to find out which ones you like the best.

The Female Condom
How it Works: The female condom is like a thin plastic "baggie" that fits upside-down in the vagina. The closed end is held inside by a flexible ring attached to the condom, and a larger ring holds the open end outside of the vagina. The pouch collects semen and prevents it from entering your vagina.

The Good: It protects against most STIs, it can be inserted up to 8 hours before sex, and it's a great option for couples who are allergic to latex.

The Not-So-Good: Initially, it's a bit of a pain to insert them correctly (but keep trying!), and you have to careful to make sure the guy's penis doesn't slip in around the outside ring, pushing the condom aside. Don't forget to remove it after sex, before you stand up. They're also more expensive then male condoms.

The Great: Female condoms are easy to get. Check your nearest drugstore, or drop by your local family planning clinic to get one.

It's no wonder that so many people use condoms. Protecting yourself from STIs is really important and, if you're going to have sex, condoms are your best bet at staying safe. There's really no good excuse for not using them - they're cheap (or free) and easy to use.

Masturbation isn't just for the lonely girls.

Many of the men and women I talk to tell me they have no problems masturbating, but women in particular see it as something that is for lonely people. Some even feel a bit ashamed that they are climaxing without their partners! So todays entry is dedicated to masturbation, the self love that teaches us SO much.

If you're masturbating for the first time--or even if you're a seasoned pro--take a few moments to relax, heighten your senses and explore your body. Dim the lights, turn on some soft, sensual music, light a few candles and burn some incense. You may feel a little silly making all these preparations just to have sex with yourself, but try it at least once and see if you like it. Many women are surprised at their bodies' responses to a sensual environment.

Once the room is ready, remove your clothes and recline on the bed or sofa. Make sure you're completely comfortable; try propping your elbows on a few pillows. Then begin to explore your body. Stroke your breasts, belly and thighs. Feel your skin raise into goosebumps as you become aroused by your own touch. Don't leave an inch of skin unexplored: search out and touch all the places on your body you don't consider to be "sexual," such as the backs of your knees, your underarms, the crevice between your vulva and inner thighs. You'll soon find out what turns you on.

When you're completely comfortable with your body, move your hands between your legs. If this is difficult or uncomfortable for you, start slow. Get out a hand mirror and a flashlight and look at yourself. Many women have never done this before and have no idea what they look like. In order to feel completely comfortable masturbating, you need to understand your anatomy. Pull your labia apart and examine your clitoris and vaginal opening. Try stroking your clitoris and watch what happens. As you become aroused, blood will flow to your clitoris, enlarging it and turning it a deep shade of red--much like a man's erect penis. The sensitive skin below your clitoris, surrounding your vaginal opening, may become puckered, like the goosebumps on your arms and legs.

As you become more comfortable and aroused, set aside the mirror and flashlight and try to completely relax. Continue to stroke your clitoris, mons pubis and vaginal opening. Concentrate on the areas that feel the best. Once you are fully aroused, you'll most likely become wet with vaginal lubrication. Try inserting a finger or two and see how that feels. Some women enjoy penetration when masturbating, some don't. Neither way is better. That's one of the joys of self-love--you can engage in only the stimulation that you enjoy, nothing more and nothing less. You're in it for yourself alone. Try different types of stimulation and see what feels best.

Or try a few of the following "advanced" moves:

With your thumb and forefinger on either side of your clitoris, gently roll it between your fingers. Begin with a slow, gentle roll and then gradually accelerate the movement until you find the speed that works for you.

Place two fingers directly on your clitoris and move them in a circular motion. Try varying speed and intensity.

"Draw" a circle around your clitoris with your middle finger. Women who find direct clitoral pressure too intense will enjoy this move.

Try tracing the alphabet on your clitoris with your index finger. This technique may not bring you to orgasm, but it might clue you in to some sensations otherwise undiscovered.

Use one hand to separate and hold apart your labia, fully exposing your clitoris. Dip the index finger from your other hand in some lubricant--from your body or from a bottle--and gently tap your clitoris. Vary speed and intensity and be patient: as you tap harder and longer, a wonderful sensation will build until you feel like you're going to explode.

When you're aroused and lubricated, gently thrust one or two fingers in and out of your vagina. Many women who believe they can only achieve orgasm through direct clitoral stimulation are surprised to find that penetration can also bring them to a rousing climax.

While stimulating your clitoris with one hand, try thrusting a few fingers into your vagina with your other hand. The combination of clitoral and vaginal stimulation can be very exciting.

Try any of the above techniques while lying on your belly. Some women prefer the slight difference in stimulation and the gentle "humping" motion they can make while enjoying this position.

Try stimulating your G-Spot: lie on your back with your knees raised and insert your middle finger into your vagina in an inverted "come hither" motion. About two inches into your vagina, on the wall closest to your stomach, you'll feel a spongy, slightly raised area. That's your G-Spot, also known as your urethral sponge. Because the sensitive portion of this area is actually on the other side of several layers of skin, it will respond best to pressure, not stroking. Try pressing your G-Spot with varying intensities. If you don't like it, just stop doing it. G-Spot stimulation isn't for everyone. However, if you do like it, try simultaneously stroking your clitoris with your other hand. Rumor has it that orgasms produced by G-Spot stimulation can be very intense.

One rule to remember--regardless of the technique you prefer--is to be nice to yourself. Masturbation is for you; you are the only person you need to worry about pleasing. Do what feels good for you. Don't worry about having an orgasm. With the multitude of nerve endings in your vulva, you will enjoy the stimulation regardless of whether or not you come. Revel in the sensations you produce in your body.

Once you become more comfortable and experienced with masturbation, you might want to try some props. Get a vibrator or dildo and some lubricant. Try a beginner anal plug while masturbating. Experiment with different sensations: feathers, silk, warming oil. Get a few erotic novels, magazines or videos. Try masturbating in the shower, either with a waterproof sex toy, or with the "massage" setting on your handheld shower head. Some women also enjoy lying on their backs in the bathtub and having water from the faucet drip or stream onto their clitorises. For more suggestions, buy a copy of "Sex for One" by Betty Dodson, or "For Yourself" by Lonnie Barbach. Both are written by women and filled with wonderful ideas for increasing your self-pleasure.

Hope this helped! Have fun girls!

"Fantasies and First time assholes" A new MAILBAG

Welcome to the Saturday MAILBAG! We have a few new questions!

Do you have sexual fantasies? Do you fantasized during sex?


What a great question! I have LOADS of fantasies. Things I want to do but haven’t tried (a 3some) and things I’ll probably never do but it turns me on (a gangbang with about 5-8 guys and me). Its part of the spice of life and I don’t believe there is anything wrong with it. As I mentioned before, some are farfetched and almost porn like and others are more simple and attainable.

Now onto your other question. So I fantasize during sex? No. I’m pretty caught up in the moment and focusing on who I’m with. I have heard people say they fantasize about someone else and there’s actually nothing wrong with it. As long as you don’t call out the wrong persons name.


What do you do when your boyfriend makes you get on top for the first time and they tell you you are bad in bed because you didn't know what to do? I've tried to talk to him and he just turns around and gives me bruises all over .

Okay so let me get this straight. You were having sex for the first time, he tells you to get in a position you had no clue about, and then had the nerve to call you bad in bed? Then when you said something he hits you? Sorry guys, but that is the definition of an asshole. I'm sorry you gave your virginity to him. Here is my opinion and I'll be honest.

First thing? Get rid of him, get away from him, leave someway. Never let ANY man hit you. The only time I allow anything that might leave a bruise is during sex. Every male I have ever been with has gotten the "If you hit me I will cut you" talk, and I mean every word of it.

Even if he hadn't been hitting you, his insensitivy should have been a warning sign. He got angry because a VIRGIN didn't know about sex. Since you were a virgin and are unexperienced a good partner will help you and coach you through it. Especially since some females feel a bit of pain during their first sexual experience.

I can't express how much you need to get out of this relationship. Best of luck hun.

Sex and Emptiness

I got another question after I posted yesterdays mailbag. I decided it was something that people probably deal with alot, so I'll answer the question.

"Does sex ever leave you feeling empty?Just curious."

This was an interesting questiong and I'll answer you honestly. I learned a while ago not to associate sex with my emotions. Its an act that brings you closer to an individual but thats about as deep as I go. The only person I have ever felt emotionally attached to is the person I gave my virginity to (which was a BAD decision to say the least) and the guy I am currently with whom I love.

The only time sex has ever felt like an empty experience was with the first, because he left me afterwards and wouldn't speak to me anymore. We didn't go to the same school so I was saved from that humilation. That experience warped how I felt about relationships and sex in general. Its very big contributor to how much value I put into the act.

I'm a very rare case, I think as well. Women ask me all the time about why men don't seem to value sex. I can never really answer them the way they want me to, since for me sex isn't as serious. I let the closeness of the relationship prove more to me than the sex. Are we on the same mental level? Does he treat me with respect? Does he care more about my well being than our tussle between the sheets? Does he live up to my expectations?

Another thing is my dominance. I have always been the most dominant partner in my sexual relatonships. Th only person who I haven't dominated is my current boyfriend and I wanted it that way. I'm exploring the side of being submissive sexually and he and I can do a switch when necessary.

So to get back to the question I was asked. No, sex doesn't make me feel empty. Its an activity I enjoy like playing piano and singing... only alot better.