"Fantasies and First time assholes" A new MAILBAG

Welcome to the Saturday MAILBAG! We have a few new questions!

Do you have sexual fantasies? Do you fantasized during sex?


What a great question! I have LOADS of fantasies. Things I want to do but haven’t tried (a 3some) and things I’ll probably never do but it turns me on (a gangbang with about 5-8 guys and me). Its part of the spice of life and I don’t believe there is anything wrong with it. As I mentioned before, some are farfetched and almost porn like and others are more simple and attainable.

Now onto your other question. So I fantasize during sex? No. I’m pretty caught up in the moment and focusing on who I’m with. I have heard people say they fantasize about someone else and there’s actually nothing wrong with it. As long as you don’t call out the wrong persons name.


What do you do when your boyfriend makes you get on top for the first time and they tell you you are bad in bed because you didn't know what to do? I've tried to talk to him and he just turns around and gives me bruises all over .

Okay so let me get this straight. You were having sex for the first time, he tells you to get in a position you had no clue about, and then had the nerve to call you bad in bed? Then when you said something he hits you? Sorry guys, but that is the definition of an asshole. I'm sorry you gave your virginity to him. Here is my opinion and I'll be honest.

First thing? Get rid of him, get away from him, leave someway. Never let ANY man hit you. The only time I allow anything that might leave a bruise is during sex. Every male I have ever been with has gotten the "If you hit me I will cut you" talk, and I mean every word of it.

Even if he hadn't been hitting you, his insensitivy should have been a warning sign. He got angry because a VIRGIN didn't know about sex. Since you were a virgin and are unexperienced a good partner will help you and coach you through it. Especially since some females feel a bit of pain during their first sexual experience.

I can't express how much you need to get out of this relationship. Best of luck hun.